When The Honeymoon Phase Ends...

Every couple has a Honeymoon phase. You know what I'm talking about. When you first start dating and everything is perfect. You love everything about your significant other. They don't have flaws, simply little quirks you can live with and can even find cute. Everything is smiles and happiness and kisses. You want to spend every minute with them and just a few hours without them feels like a lifetime. Just thinking about them makes your heart race. You don't get mad or annoyed or sad with anything they do. Everything is just sunshine and roses.

Evidently, this phase does not last forever. Some couples have a longer honeymoon phase than others, but eventually the glorious light in which you see your significant other dims a bit. I don't mean this in a bad way at all. What I'm saying is this: eventually, not everything they do will be "cute" to you. Some things they do will annoy you. You will argue. The excitement of this new relationship has worn off. They're no longer this flawless being you're so in love with. They're actually a person.

I think this is the point when many couples break up. I think a lot of people see this wrong. People mislabel this feeling, thinking "oh, the spark is gone. I'm not as in love with them anymore. This relationship is going downhill". But whats really happening is you're getting comfortable. Your partner has lost the exciting mystery they once had. You know everything about them now, there's no more discovery. Or so people think.

I think I'm at this point in my relationship now. It's not quite that frantic, new romance excitement anymore. But personally, I've never been happier. Don't get me wrong, the Honeymoon phase is great. But don't think the fun and spark of a relationship is gone once you're past that. Because now is the point where you build deeper connections. This is the point where you grow together. I like this phase because you realize that though some of the things they do actually do annoy you, and maybe you actually don't want to be with them 24/7, you're more in love with them than ever. Because you've gotten to know every part of them, good and bad. Because you've experienced things with them and made commitments. Because despite the fact that things haven't always been perfect, you're still completely in love with them.

I also feel like once you're past this phase, the pressures off. You no longer feel the need to impress them or be your ultimate self around them. You can show up at their house in sweatpants and hair tied in a bun. You don't need to shave every inch of your body and wear your cutest underwear when you go over to see them. You can ugly cry around them when you're sad and know they won't think anything of it. You can eat your weight in pizza and know they won't judge you for it. You can be 100% yourself, no reservations.

I just felt like sharing this because it's something I've been thinking about for a while. Especially in my own relationship, when I was so wrapped up and overjoyed during the Honeymoon phase, hoping it would never end and that my relationship would always be this way. Well it's not anymore. It's better.

xo

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