Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Monday, February 13, 2017

The Lip Pencil by BITE Beauty

Note: I received these items complimentary from Influenster and BITE Beauty for review purposes. As always, all opinions are 100% honest and my own! 

Okay, real talk for a second. Lip pencils have never been my go-to makeup item. I've tried so hard to get into using lip pencils, but I really couldn't. Either they were too stiff and dragged on my lips, or I just found they didn't last and did nothing.

So I was definitely intrigued to try out BITE Beauty's Lip Pencils. Could this be the product I've been looking for? I've heard such amazing things about their Amuse Bouche lipsticks, so I had high hopes that I would find similar quality in these pencils.
From the first initial swatch of these, there's one thing I noticed that I've never experienced with any other lip pencils: these things are damn creamy. They apply so smoothly, it's essentially like they've repackaged a creamy lipstick into a pencil format. This does unfortunately mean that they will snap easily if you apply too much pressure when using them, but if you're gentle, they will give such a nice, smooth line.
I received the shade 044 and 020, with the Amuse Bouche lipsticks in Whiskey and Honeycomb to go with them. I was so instantly drawn to the 044/Whiskey combo because it is just the most pretty vampy lip ever. It's a reddish brown with hints of plum and I just cannot get enough of it.
I was a touch disappointed with 020/Honeycomb though. Formula wise it's fantastic; no issues there. The shade is just a bit too nude for my lips, and I look a little bit washed out (corpse like...). I still wanted to get good use out of this one though, so I applied a gloss on top if it with a pink undertone and it looks stunning.
The Bottom Line: are these worth it? Absolutely. They've made me a believer that lip pencils are actually worth using, and that says a lot. Would I repurchase/purchase more shades? Again, absolutely. I'd love to pick up a nude more flattering to my skin tone. This is definitely a product I could see myself using on a daily basis.


Thursday, January 19, 2017

DECEMBER + JANUARY EMPTIES (and reviews!)

It's time for another empties roundup! I haven't used up too many products in the past little while, so I may start doing these posts on a quarterly basis, however I do have a TON of samples I need to test out, so let me know if you'd like to see me do a big review of samples I try!

Lets get into it!

Rimmel 'Stay Matte' Pressed Powder: It took me ages to get through this powder, but I can honestly say its one of the best I've ever used. It's super afforable and keeps your makeup matte and in place all day.

Too Faced 'Better Than Sex' Mascara: It seems I always have one of these in my empties posts, likely because it's my holy grail mascara. I've done a full review on this mascara in the past, you can read that here, but in brief, it lengthens, volumizes, and makes my lashes look unlike anything any other mascara can do.

Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara: I have a full review of this mascara on my blog as well, which you can read here, but once again, this mascara is one of the better ones at the drugstore. If you want long, voluminous lashes, this will definitely do the trick.

Arbonne RE9 Advanced Line (samples): I was sent samples of the full Arbonne RE9 Advanced Line to review (which you can read here), and I was pretty pleased overall! They each did something specific for my skin and I did notice a difference after using them.

Degree Motionsense Deodorant in 'Berry Cool': I normally don't mention deodorants in my empties, but I wanted to mention this one because I'm so in love with the scent. It's a super refreshing berry scent that I cannot get enough of!

Aveeno Eczema Care Hand Cream: If you've read my blog for a while, you know that I go through about a tube of this a month. It's my absolute favourite hand cream to soothe eczema.

Garnier Moisture Rescue Gel Cream: I finished this up early on last month. It's a great, lightweight moisturizer that I adore in the warmer months. I probably wont repurchase this until the Spring, but it's still amazing nonetheless.

Hope you're all having a wonderful day!
xo

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Too Faced Sweet Peach Palette Review

Too Faced 'Sweet Peach' Palette
I initially wasn't going to review this palette since it's been out for a while now and everyone and their grandma has it and has reviewed it, but after seeing how much love I've gotten on my pictures of it on Instagram, I figured it would be worth a mention.

I lusted after this palette from it's initial release last year, but I wasn't able to snag it, something I regretted for a loooong time. So you can imagine how excited I was when Too Faced brought it back. I was giddy like a little kid on Christmas morning.

I picked it up on Boxing Day and I've been using it in every single eye look I've done since then, no exaggeration.

I know the hype around this palette has been immense, but I think it's with good reason. Besides the fact that it's super pretty and smells like peach candy, the shadows are very pigmented, smooth and blend fantastically.

What I really love about this palette is that (when I look at it, at least), there are so many possible looks you can come up with using it. It has a wonderful mix of peaches, pinks, purples and orangy browns.

My absolute favourite shades so far are Luscious and Summer Yum. (A great go-to every day look is Summer Yum in the crease, Lusicous all over the lid, Nectar in the inner corners and White Peach as a brow bone highlight).

I don't have swatches of the palette as I think it's been done and done again, but let me know in the comments if you'd like me to do swatches and I'd be more than happy to.
Also let me know if you'd like to see any looks/tutorials using the palette!

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Review: The Storyteller by Antonia Michaelis


I normally know exactly how I feel about a book once I've read it; either I like it or I don't. This book however has left me so conflicted. I could not stop reading it, but it was also so dark, bleak and at times disturbing that I didn't want to be.

The story is of a girl named Anna, who descibes herself as living in a soap bubble. She encounters and begins to get to know a boy at her school named Abel, known as the "Polish Peddler", since he sells drugs. Besides being a drug dealer, he is also the older brother of a little girl named Micha, to whom he is a parental figure and a story teller. The big fairy tale that he tells Micha (and Anna) throughout the book parallels the real life happenings in their lives.

The themes of the book are similar to the setting in which the story takes place: cold, dark, almost uncomfortable. Almost excessively so. The characters themselves, in my opinion, are quite ambiguous, in the sense that you can't even really tell yourself whether you like them or you don't.

The biggest thing that kept me from loving this book is Anna and Abel's relationship. From the beginning, we watched as curiousity blossomed into a very clearly unhealthy relationship between the two. This is what leaves me conflicted.

SPOILERS:///
As their relationships progresses, Anna finds herself at the point where she is ready to have sex for the first time with Abel, and initiates it, only for him to rape her. The scene is very heartbreaking and difficult to read. Afterwards, Anna, obviously shocked and in pain, cuts Abel out of her life. She rips up his letters, avoids any contact with him and tries to not be in any situation where he may be around. However, not much long after, she returns to him, and while there is a little hesitation at first, things carry on as if nothing had happened. As if Abel had not completely shattered any kind of trust in their already dysfunctional relationship. Which is what bothers me so much: The whole premise of victim blaming ("well, he warned me but I kept pushing him"), and how it seems that there is some kind of persuasion to forgive the rapist because of his abusive past is completely disgusting and not okay.

But then again, I think this was the point of this story. The two had a dysfunctional, unhealthy relationship from the start. Anna is NOT the strong character who will cut him out of her life and never go back. And while it was disgusting and frustrating and endlessly frustrating to read, it was realistic. And while that realism is what leaves me conflicted on my feelings towards this book, the book itself cannot be faulted for it.

Both Anna and Abel are very flawed characters whose co-dependence leads them down a dark and disturbing path. The last chapter in which Anna envisions a parallel universe in which her and Abel live happily ever after is more disturbing than it is charming. Because it further shows how flawed and disturbed her perception of their relationship was.
END OF SPOILERS://

The book itself is beautifully, almost hauntingly written. If you're looking for a romance that is uplifting and inspiring in any way, you will not find that here. The story is dark from beginning to end and while everything is neatly tied up in the end, it's not necessarily a happy ending, at least by my standards.

I would recommend this to people who are looking for something different from the typical YA novel, who enjoy a darker, more bleak story and who enjoy reading some eloquently written passages.

4/5

Sunday, May 8, 2016

Kristen Bell Is Awesome...

Hi everyone!
 I know I've been gone for a while, I promise I haven't forgotten about this blog! I'm amidst my final exams at the moment so I'm focusing hard on that! However I just wanted to just quickly share this video because I thought it was amazing. I love Kristen Bell and she is definitely one of my role models. It is so important to have an open dialogue about mental illness. There is no shame in feeling these feelings and you should not feel afraid to seek help. I think it's so important to have these kind of talks with your children and let them understand that it's completely okay to get help and not to be afraid of that.

I hope you're all having a wonderful weekend!
xo

Saturday, March 26, 2016

Love Yourself


It makes me sad when I hear people
disregarding
taking for granted
hating
or
wanting to change
their bodies

Don't you see how beautiful you are?
What a miracle you are?
All these cells combining to form tissues,
combining to form organs,
working together in systems
All so seamlessly and tirelessly

How your brain is capable of such creative and inspiring things
How your heart continues to beat,
even while you sleep
even when you run so hard you think it might leap out of your chest
even when you're so broken hearted, you feel as though the pieces will never fit together again

Do you not see your uniqueness
How not one individual is exactly like you
Those stretch marks
Those freckles
Those scars and bruises and little hairs
Those things you despise so much
Are just some of the things that make you, you

You probably don't know
How your eyes sparkle when you smile
And that your smile is so warm and inviting
Or that your laughter contagious
And that someone's cheeks turn pink and warm
And butterflies fill their stomach
When they see you

What do you see?
Things that should be smaller
Things that should be bigger
Smoother, lighter, more "perfect"

But what can be more perfect
Than you
Right now
Natural, beautiful, miraculous
You


Thursday, January 7, 2016

Weekly Pinterest Picks: Pug Paradise

Anyone who knows me well, knows I have a bit of an obsession. I kind of have a huge love for pugs. While I'm a huge dog lover and any dog really would make me incredibly happy, I do have a bit of a soft spot for Pugs. So today I thought my weekly Pinterest picks would reflect my love for them and hopefully any fellow Pug lovers amongst you all will enjoy!




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Thursday, December 17, 2015

These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things... (Blogmas Day 17)

Hey everyone!
So this will be a very quick little post since I desperately need to get back to studying but I'm starting to feel more in that warm fuzzy Holiday mood and I thought I'd share a few of the things that make me happy this time of year when I'm feeling down.
I'm honestly so grateful for how amazing my friends are to me. Even though it's pretty much the busiest time of year for us all, they still manage to be there for me when I need them most and I appreciate it beyond belief. It makes everything so much better when I'm feeling down.
On a less serious note, here are the other things making my down days a bit better;

Sweet hot chocolate with a mountain of marshmallows

Candy canes!

Wrapping gifts with music on in the background

How pretty the twinkling lights of the tree are when its dark

The gorgeous Christmas displays in the windows of stores

Warm blankets fresh out of the dryer

Someone holding you when you don't feel well

Cute pictures of puppies and kittens (foolproof happiness tip)

I've had a really rough year this year but I honestly wouldn't have made it through in one piece if it wasn't for the amazing support I have. And I definitely wouldn't be feeling so happy and festive if it wasn't for those things I listed :)
What makes you feel better when you're down? What helps you feel more in that Christmas spirit? Let me know
xo

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

My November Favourites! (Blogmas Day 1)

 Hello there! Welcome to the beginning of a brand new month and also the first day of Blogmas! No better way to start a new month than to share what I loved throughout last month! I haven't done a favourites post is quite a while and there was a lot of new products I tried (and loved) during the month of November! So here we go....


1) Nyx Soft Matte Lip Cream in 'Copenhagen'
Anyone who knows me knows I've been on the hunt for the perfect autumnal dark red lip colour. Seriously, I think I own about 8 wine-coloured lipsticks that I bought, tried a few times and liked, but ultimately were not exactly what I was looking for. Well I can finally say that I've found it. The perfect dark wine/berry lip. I also totally adore Nyx's Soft Matte Lip Cream formulations (seriously, if you haven't tried them, definitely pick one up! They have tons of different colours and they're incredible)


2) Benefit Erase Paste
An oldie but I goodie. I used to be in love with this stuff a few years ago. I hadn't been using it at all recently, but since its getting close to finals season and the late nights are becoming even later nights, I figured it was time to get serious on my dark under eye circles. I honestly forgot how much I loved this. Its so thick and creamy, so it really does the job well when you need some serious concealer work.


3) Nars Satin Lip Pencil in 'Rikugien'
When I'm not wearing a dark lip, then I tend to go for a more natural lip colour. This one is seriously so pretty. A true "your lips but better" colour. Bonus: it feels SO nice and satin-y on the lips.


4) Lush 'Therapy' Massage Bar
Oh my goodness, this stuff is so great. When the weather starts to get chilly, my skin starts to get super dry. This has pretty much completely corrected that. As with all massage bars, your skin does feel a bit greasy at first but once it soaks in, oh my goodness. They weren't kidding when they named it 'Therapy'! It also has a really nice scent that isn't too overwhelming. I highly recommend this.


5) Paper Towns
I was bored a couple weeks ago and decided to watch a movie. I realized I hadn't seen Paper Towns yet (how?? I'm such a John Green fan too), so I decided to give that a watch. It was such a cute movie, I really loved it. And I was truly impressed with Cara Delevingne's performance (I wasn't sure how good she'd be to be completely honest. Bottom line is, I thought it was super cute and entertaining, and I'd definitely recommend it if you're looking for something fun to watch.



6) Steve Madden Coat
I got a new coat back in October for my birthday but I didn't get a chance to wear it until it started getting a bit cold out (we had our first snow fall last week!). This coat is everything I wanted and more. Its super warm and furry on the inside while sleek and classic on the outside.

So that's what I loved during the month of November! Let me know what you've loved last month in the comments! Happy December!
xo




Monday, November 23, 2015

It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas....

Oh yes! It's getting close to that time of year again! The holidays are truly one of my favourite times of the year. Yes, I may be one of those people who start listening to Christmas music in November and plan out my holiday shopping/decorating/baking weeks in advance. And yes, my family is the kind who put up their Christmas tree on December 1st. For all of you who aren't quite in the holiday spirit yet (and those of you like me who are TOTALLY in the holiday spirit) I thought I'd share a collection of photos that just might get you a bit more in the mood to get excited about the holidays!!






Are you excited for the holidays? Tell me about it in the comments!
xo

Monday, November 16, 2015

When The Honeymoon Phase Ends...

Every couple has a Honeymoon phase. You know what I'm talking about. When you first start dating and everything is perfect. You love everything about your significant other. They don't have flaws, simply little quirks you can live with and can even find cute. Everything is smiles and happiness and kisses. You want to spend every minute with them and just a few hours without them feels like a lifetime. Just thinking about them makes your heart race. You don't get mad or annoyed or sad with anything they do. Everything is just sunshine and roses.

Evidently, this phase does not last forever. Some couples have a longer honeymoon phase than others, but eventually the glorious light in which you see your significant other dims a bit. I don't mean this in a bad way at all. What I'm saying is this: eventually, not everything they do will be "cute" to you. Some things they do will annoy you. You will argue. The excitement of this new relationship has worn off. They're no longer this flawless being you're so in love with. They're actually a person.

I think this is the point when many couples break up. I think a lot of people see this wrong. People mislabel this feeling, thinking "oh, the spark is gone. I'm not as in love with them anymore. This relationship is going downhill". But whats really happening is you're getting comfortable. Your partner has lost the exciting mystery they once had. You know everything about them now, there's no more discovery. Or so people think.

I think I'm at this point in my relationship now. It's not quite that frantic, new romance excitement anymore. But personally, I've never been happier. Don't get me wrong, the Honeymoon phase is great. But don't think the fun and spark of a relationship is gone once you're past that. Because now is the point where you build deeper connections. This is the point where you grow together. I like this phase because you realize that though some of the things they do actually do annoy you, and maybe you actually don't want to be with them 24/7, you're more in love with them than ever. Because you've gotten to know every part of them, good and bad. Because you've experienced things with them and made commitments. Because despite the fact that things haven't always been perfect, you're still completely in love with them.

I also feel like once you're past this phase, the pressures off. You no longer feel the need to impress them or be your ultimate self around them. You can show up at their house in sweatpants and hair tied in a bun. You don't need to shave every inch of your body and wear your cutest underwear when you go over to see them. You can ugly cry around them when you're sad and know they won't think anything of it. You can eat your weight in pizza and know they won't judge you for it. You can be 100% yourself, no reservations.

I just felt like sharing this because it's something I've been thinking about for a while. Especially in my own relationship, when I was so wrapped up and overjoyed during the Honeymoon phase, hoping it would never end and that my relationship would always be this way. Well it's not anymore. It's better.

xo

Friday, November 13, 2015

Love Yourself Before Loving Others


Hey everyone,
I was thinking a lot about this today and I felt like I needed to write a bit about it. This may be an unpopular opinion of mine, or maybe many people agree with me and I've just never heard their side of the argument. But today, I wanted to talk about that ever so popular saying/belief/whatever that you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. And I want to talk about what I think this is complete bullshit. Keep in mind that this is my own opinion, and perhaps I'm totally misinterpreting it.

As a young woman in the 21st century, I think I speak for many others when I say that truly loving yourself is not as easy as it sounds. We are so hell bent on believing that we are flawed, chasing this idea of what is "perfect" that we are never completely satisfied without ourselves. I think it would be very rare to find someone who can genuinely tell you that they love who they are 100%. I, like many others, are working every day to begin to love and accept themselves as they are, and this is not an easy task.

What I don't like about this saying, is that it gives off the connotation that people who do not love themselves are incapable of loving others. And once again, as a woman who does not yet love herself 100%, (but is working on it!), I can tell you that it is not true. It gives off the impression that if you aren't completely happy with who you are, you shouldn't bother trying to love anyone else romantically, and this is so so wrong. Because truly, I believe that its in my romantic relationship, in loving another, that I'm starting to love myself more as a person. Almost the reverse is true for me; loving another has helped me love myself.

Now, I'm sure that is not what the saying is intending to mean. It's likely saying that you shouldn't rely on someone else's romantic interest in you validate you as a person to yourself. And that you should not seek out another person's love to replace the love you do not have for yourself. I do agree with this. I do think that you should have a sense of self respect and understanding that you do not need romantic love to make you a lovable person.

However, in the sense of the self-esteem connotation; I do not believe that you need to love yourself before loving someone else. Yeah, you should definitely respect yourself. And you should be in a place where you can open yourself up to another and put your trust in them. But I think its okay if maybe you're still learning to accept and love yourself. I think its okay if you're still a bit insecure. Because I have learned so much from my relationship, not only about my significant other or about relationships but also about myself. I've come to accept myself a lot more. What I once saw as "flaws", I'm beginning to see as unique things that make me, me. So stop making people feel as though their love is not as valid or that they are not as capable of loving another because they are still working on loving themselves. Maybe they need that special someone to remind them of the little things that make them so lovable.

I'd like to hear what you think about this. Feel free to leave your opinions in the comments. Lets have a discussion!
xo

Sunday, November 1, 2015

6 Best Things About Being In A Relationship

I made a post like this a few days ago about the best things about being single. But of course, as a girl in a relationship myself, I had to make a post like this for those of you who are in a relationship. Cause it is pretty awesome.

1) You always have a cuddle buddy
How great is it to always have someone to cuddle up with on the couch with a nice cozy blanket and a movie? Or someone to cuddle in bed with at night. Yeah, its pretty great. Especially now that its starting to get chilly out, I really do appreciate my boyfriend letting me be a heat leech. Warm winter cuddles > everything.

2) Having someone you can tell everything to
There are some things you just can't tell to your friends. Your significant other is that person you can tell everything to, good or bad, and will always love you in the end. They know you better than you know yourself and you love them for it.

3) Someone to come home to after a long day
After a long stressful day at work, school or wherever else you might have been, nothing feels better than coming home to the one you love. It really does make a bad day better when you can come home to a warm hug (and someone who will listen to you complain and rant for a little while).

4) You always have a date
Invited to a family dinner? Attending a wedding? No need to frantically find a date or go it alone, you always have a date. Also, it feels pretty nice having someone to spend the day with when Valentine's day rolls around. Bonus: couples Halloween costumes!

5) Someone to take care of you when you're sick
Lets be honest here. When we feel like crap, we don't really want to take care of ourselves. We all love a bowl of chicken soup when we have the flu, but you wont be the one cooking it. When you have a significant other, you now have yourself your own personal nurse to take care of you. And if they're really nice, they'll tell you that you still look pretty (even with your snotty nose, unwashed hair and baggy sweatpants).

6) Having someone who supports and accepts you 100%
If you're in a healthy, supportive relationship, your significant other is more than just someone you're dating. They're also your best friend, your cheerleader and #1 supporter. When you feel like you're not good enough, they'll remind you that you are. When you fall down, they help you up again and encourage you to keep going. They accept your flaws and love you for them. They make you a better person.

Bonus: inside jokes, uninhibited weirdness and awesome sex

What do you think the best thing about being in a relationship is?
Also, Happy November!
xo

Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Self Reflection: Betrayal, Hurt and Letting Go

This will be kind of a different kind of post. When I imagined creating a blog, I imagined it as a space where I could share whatever I was interested or felt like talking about. A mix between a scrapbook and a diary of sorts. And while thus far the majority of my posts have been more broad and general; recipes, fashion and advice, this one is going to be a bit more personal. If that's not something you're into reading, feel free to skip over this and come back soon (I'll be posting some recipes and more weekly Pinterest picks soon!).

A teacher of mine mentioned something last week that stuck to me for the past few days and I really wanted to write about it, to maybe just gather my thoughts. She mentioned how a nurse working on the floor I'm currently doing my clinical in had said that she prefers working with men. Why? Because if you get in an argument with a man, you'll argue and then everything will go back to normal. There's that tense moment where you have it out for each other, and then all is forgiven and forgotten. But women hold grudges. They don't forgive and forget quite as quickly. My classmates and I laughed and rolled our eyes at how annoyingly true this was, but the more I think of this, the more I realize, I AM one of those girls.

A saying I've been told many times is that "a smart girl forgives but doesn't forget". But I think I have a problem with both. I've been hurt many times in my life. Some small, fleeting blips on the emotional radar, and some so painful and crushing I wasn't sure how I'd get myself through them. And while I wish I was the strong character my mother always pushed me to be, I know I'm emotionally fragile. An eternal optimist always hoping for the best and being let down once it gets ripped away, just millimeters beyond my grasp. I don't mean to use this as an excuse, but rather an explanation perhaps, for why I feel less and less capable to forgive those who have wronged me.

I see being able to forgive someone as a sign of strength of character. And I suppose in that way, I am not strong. I feel hurt and betrayal in a really profound way and lately I have a hard time seeing past it. In the situations where I have forgiven, I sure as hell have not forgotten. And I hate that. While a so proclaimed "smart girl" should forgive and not forget, that doesn't quite work for me either. Because that makes me paranoid. It makes me anxious and distrustful and suspicious that maybe it'll happen again. Even in situations where I know it will not happen again, I still worry. I don't want to be this way, I really don't. It takes up so much of my energy: worrying about things that don't even need to be worried about. But sometimes I'm worried that my ability to trust has been damaged. I could trust someone with my life, but still be cautious in handing them my heart.

I feel like I've gone off on a tangent, but it does feel almost therapeutic to get my feelings out in words. Hopefully, for those who chose to read this, it has been at least worth the read.

xo

Friday, September 18, 2015

6 Signs of A Strong Relationship


1. Mutual Trust
This one is huge. You both trust each other no matter what. Now this doesn't mean you go in blindly trusting their every word and believe they can do no wrong. It means you've earned each others trust and respect each other enough not to mess with that.

2. You communicate
This one is also very important. Nowadays we talk a lot, but communicating is different. You don't need to be constantly talking 24/7. But when it comes to important things, it's discussed. When one of you is upset, unsure, anxious, worried, etc. about something, especially if its something about your relationship, you let them know. You discuss it with maturity. This is always something you can work on because a relationship with good communication is a happier relationship. No one is a mind reader.

3. You support each other
You support each others dreams and hobbies. You help them out when you're needed and cheer from the sidelines when you're not. You listen to them ramble on about something, even if you're really not interested, because they're passionate about it and it's important to them. When they're feeling down, you're there to bring them back up. You're not only their significant other but you're their #1 supporter.

4. You spend time together, but also apart
You spend a lot of time together, because that quality time means the world to you. But you also have your own friends, job, hobbies and life. You know that being joined at the hip and never going anywhere without them is not healthy. And seeing them after having been apart for a while is all the more exciting.

5. You make each other better 
They motivate you to be better, work harder and just generally be a better you. You want to be the best you can be for them and vice versa, because they deserve it. They accept you as you are and would never try to change you, but you can't help cleaning up a little because they inspire you to be better.

6. You laugh together
Another big one. Your relationship is filled with tons of laughter and inside jokes. Who wants an overly serious, boring relationship? You know you found "the one" when they know exactly how to make you laugh and you know just how to do the same. Your relationship is filled with fun and laughter and you enjoy every minute being with them.

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

6 Things to Know When Dating Someone Who Suffers From Anxiety



As someone who suffers from anxiety and is currently in a long term relationship, I can tell you that it can be difficult at times. We have good days and bad days, our bad days just tend to be a bit worse than others'. I'm incredibly fortunate to have someone who is so supportive and makes me feel safe and loved in times when I feel anything but that. I also know what it's like to be on the other end of this dynamic; how to be there and support someone who is feeling anxious and vulnerable. So if you're dating someone who is dealing with anxiety, here are a few tips that I've found really important to remember and will ultimately bring your relationship closer.

1) Reassurance
I often worry that my anxiety will become a hindrance to my relationship, and may become a source of resentment. But a little reassurance can go a long way. "I'm here for you", "I love you no matter what", "I care about you and want to help you feel better. You're not annoying me". Little things like these can help put nagging worries at rest. And no, it doesn't need to be constant reassurance, but it does feel really great to hear that once in a while.

 2) Know when to be there and when to step back
At times when someone is feeling particularly anxious they may want to be alone. I tend to isolate myself in times like these. Know that we are not ignoring you or are upset with you. Sometimes we just need to try and quiet the panic in our mind alone or just do not want to be around people. On the contrary, sometimes when I'm feeling scared and anxious, I want to be held and supported by someone I love and I know loves me back. If you're not sure, just ask, "I'm here for you. Do you want me here right now or would you rather be alone for a little while?" Of course, don't start asking questions if we're in a full blown panic. You won't get much of an answer.

3) Be a positive influence
There's can be a lot of negativity going on in an anxious persons mind. And while no one can expect you to be a ray of sunshine 24/7, having a positive attitude around your significant other can really affect them positively. If you can take anything from this tip, just avoid being negative towards them about their anxiety. They already know it's not fun for you to deal with, and believe me, it's even less fun to have to deal with yourself, but telling them to "get over it" or to "calm down" or that you wish they would stop being so anxious will only make them worry that you resent them for something beyond their control.

4) They will overthink
This one, for me, is huge. Know that your significant other with probably be overthinking things. Things that might even seem silly to you, but to them it's not. Because there is always a nagging worry, that "what if?" that never seems to go away. Needless to say, telling them to "get over it" will not help. This is why communication and reassurance is SO important. Make sure they know that they can talk to you about anything and share anything they might be overthinking. And even after you've discussed it, be sure to check up on it every once in a while, because it might still be worrying them. Because from my experience, it will consume them, and  they might be embarrassed to bring it up to you, in fear that you might think its stupid.

 5) Be understanding
You might not truly understand their anxiety or what its like to have to deal with it. Some days will be good days and some days will not. The greatest thing you can do for your significant other is to be understanding of this and promise to be there for them when they need you.

6) Know you are appreciated
You are appreciated so much more than you know.




Friday, September 11, 2015

Is a Shellac Manicure worth it?


Before going on vacation this summer I decided that instead of painting my nails at home, I'd treat myself to a Shellac manicure at a salon. I've never had a Shellac manicure done before, so I guess you could say that I'm behind in the times, but I finally got around to it and I honestly fell in love.

So is it worth it? If you ask me, I'd say yes. It's not without downsides, but I think that the pro's grossly outweigh the con's. My nails tend to break very easily, even when I coat them with hardener, so I usually keep them somewhat short. With the shellac, my nails were so strong, and as promised, 2 weeks later and not a single chip or scratch in the polish. My nails grew out beautifully and I was so so sad to have to remove it. I would have definitely gotten more reapplied, however I can't have anything on my nails during the semester (the joys of clinicals!)


Basically, it makes your nails stonger, grow out nicer, the colour looks stunning (and the colour selection was incredible. I think I had to choose between 95 different colours, or something crazy like that!!), and though it might seem a touch pricy, the above things make it so worth it. Of course, it isn't all positive. The main drawback with Shellac manicures is the removal process. Your nails will basically be wrapped in cotton soaked in pure acetone and then wrapped in aluminum foil for about 15 minutes. Sounds like no big deal, but this really does dry the hell out of your nails and they really do feel quite damaged afterwards. However this is so easy to remedy, it hardly seemed too bad to me. If you're having that issue, here are a few tips that can help restore your nails shine and hydration.

1) The first thing I did was apply a good, thick moisturizer to my hands but focusing mostly on my cuticles and nails
2) For further moisture, I used Burt's Bee's lemon butter cuticle creme all over my cuticles and nails, twice a day.
3) If you're feeling like you REALLY need extra moisture and nothing is working, warm up (very slightly, we're talking lukewarm, not deep frying temperatures) a small bowl of oil (I highly recommend coconut oil, however I've heard just plain vegetable oil can also work. Soak your nails in the bowl for 10-15 minutes and your nails will be good as new!



Helpful tip: Before you get your Shellac manicure done, check if the salon you're going to has a removal fee. I've seen it go from anywhere from $5-$20. There are salons that will remove the Shellac for free, so I suggest you look around at different options before getting them done!

Friday, September 4, 2015

Anxiety and Relationships


Anxiety has affected my life in so many ways. I'm still learning to live with it, but it's not always easy. Especially when you're in a relationship. As much as I wish it didn't, and it could always be sunshine and happiness all day long, my anxiety has definitely affected my relationship with my boyfriend. I'm incredibly lucky that he is so patient and supportive, but I also worry that one day he'll get tired of putting up with me; is it possible to have anxiety about your anxiety? I guess it is.

I think that's the thing a lot of people don't realize about anxiety disorders. It's not cute; it's not feeling shy and nervous once in a while, its not blushing and giggling and looking at your feet when someone talks to you. Its crippling fear, or just a constant nag in your head just constantly putting you on edge, upsetting you, scaring you. And it affects every aspect of your life, even those that make you happy.

As horrible as I probably just made it all sound, and yeah, it's not great, I think I've been very fortunate. As anxious as I can be, I feel so fortunate for the relationship I'm in, and I know its mutually supportive and healthy. Having someone who loves you on your good days, but also on the days when you're absolutely panicked and unreasonable is something incredibly important to me. And I know its not at all easy to be patient with that but it truly does make me appreciate it all the more.

It all comes down to having that support system to get you through the tough situations. It doesn't have to be from a significant other, as it is for me. It can be your best friend, or a parent, or anyone close to you who can make you feel loved when you feel your most unlovable. That person who will be there for you when you feel completely alone. So yeah, my anxiety sucks, but in a way, I think it's made my relationship a lot more supportive and close. It's a good feeling to know that despite the chaos, you have a safe place to land.

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Puppy Love

In case anyone needed a little cheering up today... you're welcome! We're babysitting this little princess for a few weeks and I'm so in love.

xo


Sunday, July 26, 2015

Summer Fashion Inspiration


                     




















I've been spending a lot of time on Pinterest lately pinning tons of amazing summer fashion (and trying to resist heading straight to the mall to buy it all!). I thought I would share some of the stuff I've been loving lately and hopefully give some of you some ideas if you're looking for some inspiration to update your summer wardrobe. (You can follow me here on Pinterest to stay updated with the stuff I'm loving!)



   


Stripes, bold colours and aztec pattens have been so huge for me this summer. I'm also loving anything flowy; be it skirts, dresses or loose shorts. Feel free to look at My Dream Closet Pinterest board for more inspiration! Besides, though it might seems a bit late in the game for Summer fashion, right now is probably the best time to shop for summer clothes (hello, summer clearance sales, anyone??)





























What have you been loving in fashion this summer? Let me know!
xo