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Getting Rid of Toxic Friendships (Blogmas Day 3)

Hi everyone!
Now I know for the most part, Blogmas is usually a time for more festive holiday posts, but there are a few things I've really been wanting to write about for a while now that I haven't gotten around to and since I'm making the effort to publish one post a day, I figured this is the time to do it. So, as you can assume from the title, this isn't a holiday-related post. But it's something I feel is very important, and I really felt like writing about it today!

I've reached a point in my life where I'm very happy with all the people who are currently in my life. But it hasn't always been that way. A really hard thing to come to terms with, especially in your teenage years, is that no matter how convinced you are of otherwise, many of your friendships will not stand the test of time, and 2, 5, 10 years from now they (and you) will be completely different people.

There are two things we need to work on:

  • Realizing its time to move away from a friendship 
  • Realizing a friendship is becoming toxic
When we make these self-proclaimed "best friends for life", a lot of times we find ourselves grasping at them for dear life, not wanting to let go of them. But the reality is that people do grow apart and not all friendships are worth trying to keep. I'm not saying you should let go of all your friends from the past. I am saying you need to let go of friendships where
  1. You find yourself putting in more effort than the other person 
  2. You feel you are not listened to/your feelings are not considered (i.e it's all about them)
  3. They never make time for you (when you always make time for them)
  4. They hurt you (and do not realize/care/apologize)
  5. Then only seem to spend time with you when its convenient for them (i.e everyone else was busy)
  6. You don't feel like you are the best version of "you" when you're with them (your friendship is based on negativity, gossip, etc.)
These types of friendships are toxic. Honestly, I've had a few of these friendships in the past and moving past them is the best thing you can do. You might have been so close at some point in time but maybe you just weren't meant to be close for a lifetime. I can promise you that trying to hold on to these friendships will result in you getting hurt. If you feel like you are the only one putting any effort into this friendship then you are better off seeking the friendship of someone who will reciprocate 100% rather than putting all this energy in someone who only makes time for you when it's convenient for them. 

I've gotten rid of some of these friendships and I'm a much happier person because of it. Get rid of that negativity in your life, you deserve to be loved and appreciated in a positive way!

Have you had any experience like this? Let me know in the comments, lets discuss! xo
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